Wednesday, 19 July 2017

Photo 51

It was Thomas' leavers assembly this morning. We'd been warned by the Head to bring plenty of tissues and he was right, it was quite an emotional hour. 

They were all presented with a hoodie with the names of their class mates on and a USB stick with a copy of their play, Pirates of the Curry Bean, photos from their bowling trip and photos of them at their prom which is a lovely memento.

There were special achievement awards and certificates and attendance badges. Ironically, after receiving a D for attendance on his report Thomas managed to get a bronze award for not being absent for a full term. 

It started at 10.45pm and finished at 12 noon. And that was it. Primary school was over. It hasn't been the easiest ride for Thomas but the best thing we ever did was move him to a new school in Y3. He's come on a treat since then, not least because the staff have been brilliant with him. 

Unfortunately, there were no extended celebrations because we had to rush home and get changed for a funeral. My Uncle collapsed in his garden a few weeks ago and never regained consciousness. The consultant told my Aunty that the bleed on his brain meant he would probably never come round and he didn't. But it took 12 days of her sitting by his bed before he slipped away. The last 72 hours he was moved to the hospice my dad died in and me and Mum went to see him which was very emotional.  

My Uncle was my Dad's sister's husband. She's in her mid 80's and has outlived all her siblings who died young, 24, 46 and 47 and now her husband. Her son was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago so she is also dealing with that. I just hope and pray she doesn't outlive him as well. 

We all went to the funeral, Amy and Thomas included. They were given the choice and decided they'd like to go. I've been to plenty of cremations but this was a burial and I've only been to one of those before - my cousin. 

It was a lovely service in what I suppose could be called the family church. My grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles all got married there. We were christened there and it was where my dad and grandad had their funeral service. As is usual at these events it was a chance to meet up with relatives who sadly we only seem to bump into at funerals these days. It doesn't help that nobody seems to get married any more so we don't tend to meet up under anything other than sad circumstances.

We've just got in and I'm having an hour before I'm off out again to meet my friends for our end of term catch up. I'm looking forward to it actually. I could do with a good chat and a bit of lightheartedness and the only tears I want to be shedding tonight are tears of laughter. 

   Taken in his first term in                                        Taken on his last day of primary
      reception class 2010                                                             19.7.2017
  

   
xxx







24 comments:

  1. A bitter sweet day to say the least.
    I agree - the leavers days are quite sad - especially when it's your youngest - I remember them well.
    Hope you have a lovely evening.

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    1. It was a day of happy tears and sad tears Mrs. The leavers assembly was lovely. It really doesn't seem 2 minutes since I was watching him walk into school on his first day.

      Yes, you've hit the nail on the head, when it's your youngest it seems more poignant somehow that you'll never be doing 'those years' again. My little boy is growing up fast. xx

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  2. What a very emotional day for you Suzanne and I'm sorry to read of your sad news. I do hope you get to enjoy your evening and that there are plenty of tears of laughter.
    Some lovely mementos there for Thomas. It sounds like you made the right choice with his school. X

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    1. It was emotional Jules. The funeral was lovely, the church has played a big part in my Aunty and Uncle's life and the Vicar knew him well so it was very personal which was nice. As with every funeral there were sad tears and happy tears as we remembered him.

      Moving Thomas was one of the best things we ever did. It was led by him as well which made it easier. There was a bit of a bumpy start but his teacher was brilliant with him and he's thrived while he's been there. xx

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  3. That last assembly of the year 6 class is always a tear jerker, I was a year 6 teacher for 16 years and there weren't many last assemblies where I didn't choke back tears. And then a sad time but in the church where you could call it your family church.. so yes it must have been a lovely service.

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    1. Oh it was Chris. Just seeing them all sat there ready to move on to their next stage of life brought a lump to my throat. As they were presented with their tops they shook hands with the Head and they looked so grown up.

      My uncles his funeral was a lovely service and it's always nice to go back to the 'family church'. It holds a lot of happy and sad memories for the family but they are all memories that make up parts of our life. xx

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  4. What an emotional day, sorry for your loss. Enjoy your evening, hope there's lots of laughter.

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    1. Thank you, there were tears of laughter and sadness throughout the day but seeing my friends certainly rounded off what was an emotional day on a good note.

      We are in your part of the world next week - can't wait :) xx

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  5. I am so very sorry for your loss Suzanne.
    I hope tonight chases away some of the sadness.

    Hugs-x-

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    1. Thank you Sheila. They'd been married for over 60 years so it will be very strange for my Aunty being on her own. I've always thought funerals are sadder if there is a spouse remaining, there are tears for the person who has passed away but also tears for the person who has to carry on without them.

      I had a lovely evening with my friends. It was a good way to end the day. xx

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  6. Highs and lows all in a day.
    Hope your evening out is a good one.
    We have a funeral very soon too

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    1. Yes, highs and lows is a good way of describing yesterday Sue. My Aunty suddenly seemed old and frail yesterday. They were married for over 60 years so it will be very strange for her not to have my uncle by her side. She has family and lots of friends from the church who will help her but it'll never quite be the same again. xx

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  7. Sorry for your loss Suzanne and it was good that Amy and Thomas went to say goodbye. Really glad the leavers do went well for Thomas and you can all relax now for the next few weeks. Hope your evening out went well-there's nothing like going out with a crowd of pals to cheer you up ( especially as they'll all be demob happy which means muchos wine asap) look for ward to seeing pictures of Sienna tomorrow. Catriona

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    1. Thank you Catriona. Amy and Thomas definitely wanted to come and my Aunty was pleased to see them there.

      I'm looking forward to a more relaxed routine over the summer, although today we have been up and at it as usual as it's babysitting day! I am really looking forward to getting away in the van next week. My friends were in work again today but you're right they were still de-mob happy.

      Hope the dental appointment went well. I shall be posting a photo or two of Sienna later on :) xx

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  8. What thoughtful presents the school gave the children. My grandson will have been at secondary school one year, crazy the time is flying. My husband's nan died at 98 having outlived all her siblings and children. Bless her!

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    1. The gifts were lovely especially the USB stick with the play and photos on it. That's something I'll keep just so I can get it out and show his future girlfriends lol.

      They grow up so quickly don't they. I can clearly remember his first day at school - I really don't know where those years have gone.

      Your husband's nan lived to a grand old age, but that's exactly what I wouldn't want to do - outlive my children. If there were grandchildren though that would probably help. Unfortunately, we don't have a say in the matter do we. xx

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  9. What an emotional rollercoaster you have been on today, thankfully ending on a high. Love the gifts the school gave Thomas, very special!! So sorry to hear about your uncle, your poor aunt sitting at his bedside all that time. Have fun tonight!

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    1. Yes, the day ended nicely thank you Janice. A good chat and catch up over a couple of bottles of wine is just what the Doctor ordered.

      The gifts were lovely, something to always keep, especially the USB stick with his play and photos on. The 100% bronze attendance is one for the keepsake box as well - along with the report card with D on for attendance lol.

      The evening we visited the nurses didn't think he would make the night but it took another 48 hours for him to slip away. It was very hard for everybody just waiting not least my Aunty who didn't leave his side. xx

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  10. A very emotional day for you, with lots of ups and downs. My deepest sympathies on the loss of your uncle. I hope the day ended on a high note as you enjoyed an evening out with friends.

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    1. It certainly was a day of ups and downs Bless. The leavers assembly was lovely and as well as the children leaving several members of staff were either moving on to different schools to promotions or retiring. They were obviously well loved teachers from the reaction of the children and the staff. Two of them got standing ovations :)

      The funeral service was very personal as the vicar knew my Uncle and although there were tears there was also laughter at what he used to get up to.

      I had a lovely night with my friends. My only complaint is they always go too quickly. xx

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  11. what an emotional day.
    Violet's leavers assembly is tomorrow afternoon, and Bill is going. I have no intention of squeezing out any tears over that school, and I know that if I was to sit and watch lots of kids crying over their memories then I'm bound to drop a tear. So no. I won't be there!

    A tough day for you and your family, sorry about your uncle. xx

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    1. Thank you. It was an emotional day and I'm glad both things are over and done with. It wasn't so much he was leaving primary but more that he's growing up and those years are behind us now and I don't honestly know where they've gone.

      They don't do memories at Thomas' school but they do at his old one. It's a new thing and my friends had me in stitches because they said a lot of the memories haven't even happened - the children have obviously just made them up because they can't think of anything to say! xx

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  12. So sorry to read you had sad news x sending you a bit of extra Northern internetty love. Thomas looks such a cheeky little thing in his first pic! How grown up is he now! We had a leavers service in church Wed morning and then Thursday it's the Y6 parents lunch followed by the leavers assembly at 1pm. In 2015 our kids were presented with those hoodies but Sept 2016 it was decided to present them at the beginning of the year so they could get the money's worth! They wore them on school trips to London and Towerwood and were allowed them at school too. It really made them feel
    More grown up and they are a lovely purple colour. It was dead emotional this year as I'm super fond of a few of our year six's I've supported this year, I was in tears as my ultimate favourite just looked despondent as his classmates were dissolving. I always find the biggest tear jerker is we applaud them as they leave the hall for the last time! It was also sad bc one of my best friends and a teacher I've worked with for years has left to take up a deputy post at another school x

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    1. Thank you my lovely. He does look a cheeky monkey doesn't he with that twinkle in his eye, but he was so quiet. Photos definitely DO lie.

      Your leavers events sound lovely and what a good idea to give the tops out at the beginning of the year because the thought did cross my mind of not sure where Thomas will wear that - but during Y6 is obviously the ideal place.

      My only small gripe about our leavers assembly was it wasn't just for parents. The whole school was crammed into the hall and there were 3 rows of chairs at the back for parents. Some of them had brought extras such as children and grandparents as well, so we ended up stood squashed in a corner with not much of a view. Out of everything that goes on in the school I think that event should definitely be parents only - they're our kids after all.

      Losing staff friends to other schools is really sad. Just knowing there's somebody you can have a moan to or a laugh with who's on the same wavelength as you can make a bad day a lot better. xx

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