Wednesday, 7 October 2015

Bullying and Boil both sorted

Mark hasn't been feeling well for a while with sinus trouble, temperatures, night sweats and the most painful boil on his arm that's been getting worse every day. After nagging him, he finally took himself to the Doctors yesterday and came away with a prescription for antibiotics. 84 tablets in total to be taken over 18 days, plus painkillers. The doctor has warned him that if the antibiotics don't work, it will be a case of surgery to sort the boil out. So the moral of that story is, don't be a hero and nip your ailments in the bud.
Number 14 is now on the market to let, although it won't be ready until mid-November. One of our neighbours knocked on the door this afternoon enquiring about it for their daughter. As we've signed on the dotted line with the managing agent they'll need to speak directly to them. We've gone down the management route as the property still belongs to Joan and also to save us from having to directly deal with any problems that may arise. 

I managed to get to Bury this morning. Christmas is slowly creeping into the shops although Halloween has pride of place at the moment. Amy is going to her first 'grown up' party this year and is dressing up as Poison Ivy. It didn't mean anything to me as I'm not a Batman fan but Mark and Thomas' eyes nearly popped out of their heads. I can understand why, now that I've googled. Trust me, she'll be more covered up than this. Thomas did a fantastic impression of how Miss Ivy sashays up and down wiggling her hips. There'll be none of that either!

Thomas' headteacher rang Mark today and asked him to go in to speak to him. The teacher has made the boy apologise to Thomas and this morning when Mark dropped Thomas off, he saw the boy's dad going into the office and the head confirmed he'd spoken to him. I have to say he's pretty good at nipping things in the bud when it reaches his level. He's going to speak to Thomas tomorrow about it being OK to stand up for himself and also to the boy about it not being OK to do what he's been doing. At the moment we're happy with that. The thought of any child being bullied makes my blood boil but when it's your own it's 10 times worse. 

Thomas seems happy enough tonight though and hopefully things will settle back down now.

If not, the bad cop gets to go back in.

xxx








7 comments:

  1. glad things are sorted. :O)

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    1. Thanks Sadie. It doesn't take much to throw Thomas off kilter and then it can take ages for him to settle back down. There's nothing wrong with Thomas, he just wants to be left alone to get on with doing what he's got to do. We're happy with the outcome, just can't understand why the teachers don't seem capable of sorting it out at their level. Thank goodness we have a Head who's very proactive about these things. If I was him though I'd be asking the teachers why he ended up involved. xx

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    2. Thanks Sadie. It doesn't take much to throw Thomas off kilter and then it can take ages for him to settle back down. There's nothing wrong with Thomas, he just wants to be left alone to get on with doing what he's got to do. We're happy with the outcome, just can't understand why the teachers don't seem capable of sorting it out at their level. Thank goodness we have a Head who's very proactive about these things. If I was him though I'd be asking the teachers why he ended up involved. xx

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  2. Morning! Just been reading up. I'm glad things seem sorted at school. Those parents that undermine school's authority are the worst kind and I've encountered more than my fair share. Even 'innocent' things really make a difference. For example
    For the London trip, parents were told in plenty of time,
    Rucksacks only - the children have to carry their own things on the first and last day, around London. And a very STRICT £10 ONLY spending money.
    Hmmmm guess which children were the ones whose behaviour was questionable??? The giant PIA for all the adults??
    The ones with sodding cases on wheels and with mega bucks to spend.


    Then you get the worst kind of undermining - when you speak to a parent about behaviour, their cherub denies it and then IN FRONT OF THAT CHERUB you are called a liar and get verbally abused.

    Sometimes, I just want to work in Sainsburys.

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    1. Now that really does annoy me, kids who can do no wrong and parents who reinforce this view in front of them. There's been a couple of times I've not agreed with something a teacher has done but if I'm questioning their reasons, I never do it in front of Amy or Thomas. I know teachers have a hard enough time with discipline without kids thinking they're beyond reproach because their parents think the sun shines out of their backsides.

      I can imagine what a nightmare those cases were! Trying to navigate the kids let alone kids with wheels would have done my head in. In my 'I'll show you' world, I'd have emptied their stuff into carrier bags at the school gate and made them get on with it!

      Spending money is a bone of contention as well. A couple of teachers wouldn't allow any on their trips. Not only does it separate the have and have nots but those blasted souvenir shops at the end are a nightmare. Plus, the kids can't enjoy the day out for wittering on about "when are we going to the shop". I think it was a good call. xx

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    2. I think that my suggestion for next year would be to build the spending money into the amount payable and then staff buy the souvenirs. £5 would have bought them a really nice silver commemorative coin from the London Eye ( £2.50 ) and a cute London key ring or fridge magnet or two from the Youth Hostel.

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    3. That's a good idea. And a coin and keyring sound perfect as a little souvenir from the trip. xx

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